A Question on Death

Recently I received a question from a beautiful soul on my blog, so I’ve answered it here.

The question is:

I’d also like to ask one question, and not an easy one at all. How do you see death, and what advice would you give to deal with fear of it? Please let me know if you pick this one up and answer it – I would be incredibly grateful!

In answer to your question…. Well, it’s a big question isn’t it πŸ™‚ I think there are two parts to it; as a spiritual being I view death as a transition back to our essence. I feel like the dying part is very human and can be very hard, however as our body dies we let go into a love so much bigger than what we can truly experience here on earth. It is all encompassing unconditional love. (Most of our experiences of love here on earth is conditional and we know it – we can feel it – and a lot of fear emerges from this).

Fear of death is our human side wrapped up in thoughts about dying, the pain, sickness, our about loved ones being left, or of dying too soon. There’s also fear of what happens on the other side – and fear of the unknown.

It doesn’t really matter what the particulars are of your fear, and they probably change from time to time, as your focus changes. I think it’s amazing you’re aware of your fear. Fear of death is our deepest fear, mostly too subconscious for people to recognise, but it’s often a driving force in our lives.Β You are aware of it and want to look at it – which means you are very self aware and brave πŸ™‚

A process I’ve found the be the most powerful is to meditate on deathΒ 

and your fear of it. Feel where the fear sits in your body – where you carry the fear, and then imagine how it looks.

The Process to Meditate on Death.

Close your eyes, and breathe in and out deeply. Settle yourself for a few moments, then say to yourself “Fear of death, fear of death” this will call it up. Then, ask yourself where your fear and the feeling of fear sits most in your body.

Next, Imagine what your fear looks like if it had a shape or a colour. Let anything come to mind, don’t ‘think’ about it.

If you see it as a black hole that’s scary, imagine yourself sitting next to the hole or the darkness, breathing with it. Then move closer. Little by little merge yourself into it. It’s the ultimate facing of your fear πŸ™‚ Don’t be scared off if your physical body goes a little nuts, just keep progressing, keep moving toward it, then into it.

Remind yourself ‘it’s okay’ you’re just sitting in your room or on your bed. It’s okay πŸ™‚ Keep going.

If it changes, then curiously watch / feel it change. Check in on it again tomorrow and see if it’s different or the same.

Awareness and realisations will often come to you as you do this process, but don’t go looking for them. Do the process more than once, on different days. Get more and more used to the idea of death and your fear of it.

Imagine you’re already dead.

Another process is to meditate on already being dead. I know this sounds super strange, but I think you’re ready for it πŸ™‚ Either in meditation or just at any time, imagine you’ve already passed on and years have passed by. Look around at all the people, at life bustling on regardless. See everything going on just like normal except you’re not in it anymore.

Notice what comes up for you. How do you feel about life after you do this? What has happened to your fears?Β 

Try this exercise at other random times during the day – like even when you’re sitting at your desk or walking down the street. It’s not about imagining the sadness of your loved ones, it’s just about noticing how life goes on.

Our fears become bigger when we let them be scary and hidden, when we let them branch off into thoughts about the fear. Eg. a fear of death might stem into fear of planes, or of driving, or even low self-confidence or incessant worry. But when we follow the branches back to the trunk, and the trunk down to the roots, we find the bigger fear – the root fear.

Death and our fear of it is like the big elephant in the room, everyone has it within them but no-one wants to talk about – especially in a lot of western cultures.Β 

It helps to breathe into your heart either at the start or at the end (or both) of any of these techniques or processes. Facing your fear through these techniques brings it out of the dark, and you get to regain your power (instead of fueling the fear and giving it all your power). It will lighten up and you will lighten up.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on meditating on death.

With love,

10 thoughts on “A Question on Death

    1. Hi Shirlee, wow that’s amazing, and I’ve had dreams like that as well where the feeling permeates through your body. They’re so helpful and we can make big shifts through these experiences.

      I’d love to read your experience as well! I’ll have a look at your blog to find it – I’m very curious πŸ™‚ I love talking about this sort of stuff xoxoox

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  1. @shirlee16, how interesting, I also had an experience dreaming of dying! And honestly, to this day, it was one of the happiest dreams I have had. Obviously not because of what happened there, but because of how it made me feel. Liberated is close, but doesn’t begin to describe it, it’s really something from another dimension… And yet when back on the physical plane – good ol’ fear, here we go again πŸ˜€ How was your dream death experience? Very curious to hear!

    Sharon, this was a beautiful, uplifting post, and it gave me a whole new way to deal with this fear! I will certainly try it and see what happens. Thank you ❀

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    1. That’s amazing, and I know the feeling you’re talking about. There are so many experiences out there designed to help us in our waking state, we just let our ego-mind and fears creep back in, and our energy and awareness gets pulled right up into our head again instead of being down in our bodies.

      It’s funny how easily we forget or push to the back of our minds profound experiences and we let niggling fears reside. I do it as well, and your question yesterday was so perfect for me as it got me focusing on death again – which in turn helps the worries fall away more easily.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing your experiences. And I’ve really enjoyed getting on your awesome and uplifting blog!!

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      1. Great to hear you enjoyed my blog, too, and it feels good to be able to discuss such an important topic as death outloud – this in itself felt empowering to me.


  2. Also, Sharon, is it ok if I try a similar thing and ask my followers if there’re any questions they want answered? I would love to help my community in the same beautiful way as you do, and this idea for such a format is pure gold. Then again, don’t want to steal anyone else’s gold, so if you mind, please don’t hesitate to say so!

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    1. That’s beautiful Elena! I think it’s awesome that you want to do it as well πŸ™‚ It is fun to see what people come up with and gets you thinking and writing about different topics. And no doubt I’ll have a question for you too πŸ™‚ Sharon xx

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